Proving your love by saying “I love you” is, to many people, the best way of showing your feelings. Many people want to be told “I love you” as often as possible, some less often, but it’s still regarded as a way of voicing true feelings in a relationship. The frequency of „I love you“s is often equated with the strength of a relationship.
One factor, however, is often overlooked. “I love you” means different things to different people. To some it comes easy, especially if they grew up in families where “I love you” is said a lot. Like: “Have a nice day – I love you!”, “Good Night – I love you!” “Drive safely– I love you!” etc. If you’re used to that, it’s relatively easy to prove your love in a relationship by saying „I love you“.
Others use „I love you“ sparingly, and find it difficult to prove their love that way. This can spell trouble for a relationship where one partner feels like the other isn’t able to show their feelings. On the other hand, you could say that a rare „I love you“ is more valuable because of ist rarity.
If you think you don’t hear „I love you“ often enough in your relationship, remember you can’t prove your love in a quantifable way and there is no way of determining the correct amount of „I love you“s.